Helping families create healthier relationship with technology through research, storytelling, and practical strategies for parenting in the digital age.
[FIRST NAME GOES HERE], Ready to Pause?
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Hey Reader, And I think I’ve been avoiding saying it out loud because… once I do, I can’t really take it back. But here it is. There is no one way to do screen time. Not the right way. There’s only… your way. And honestly? I don’t have it figured out. Over the years—through my clients, through conversations at schools and companies, through late-night texts with other parents—I’ve learned something that both comforts me and completely unsettles me. We are all making this up as we go. Even the people who sound like they have a system. Even the people who write the books. Even me. Technology is not standing still. It’s not like nutrition. By the time we think we understand something… it changes. New platforms. And suddenly we’re back at the beginning again. So what do we do? For a long time, I thought the answer was: More structure. And don’t get me wrong—those things matter. But they’re not the whole story. Because underneath all of it, what we’re really trying to do is not manage screens. We’re trying to raise humans. Humans with:
Lately, I’ve been asking myself a different question. Not: “How do I control their screen time?” But: “Who are my kids becoming while they’re on their screens?” That question hits differently. And if I’m being really honest… Some days it feels like we’re doing great. And some days it feels like everything is unraveling. But maybe that’s the point. Maybe this isn’t something we solve. Maybe this is something we learn how to navigate. Together. Helping them pause. Helping myself pause. Let's pause together and listen to some families and their twists and turns parenting in the digital age. I’m launching Infinite Halls on June 3! OMG! That's this long from now!
So no. I don’t have a system that works every time. I don’t have a clean answer. But I do have this: A belief that if I keep focusing on my kids—their character, their choices, their sense of self— And if I keep coming back to intentional use… Then maybe… We can figure this out. Together. Peace, Love, and Hairgrease, Arcadia |
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Helping families create healthier relationship with technology through research, storytelling, and practical strategies for parenting in the digital age.
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